Ah Yes the lovely conversation of modesty. This post is mainly geared towards girls because I am a girl. Before I get into the topic of how to dress modest and being modest I am going to talk about the decision to become modest.
Well I will admit something I wasn’t always modest. I was somewhat modest. It was like I was but at the same time I wasn’t. Somethings I used to wear I just think back and I am like why did I wear that? I used to dress in tight clothing. I also tried to get a guys attention with my body language. I did it because I wanted attention from guys. I felt unloved because I have never had a boyfriend before. I just wanted to feel loved and appreciated. That was until I turely discovered my savior and his love for me, which wasn’t until recently. That was when I decided that modest is something I wanted to be.
I never really became a true catholic until a couple of years ago. I was practically a creaster and I only when to church while I was in CCD. While I was in one of my last CCD classes before I went into my church’s confirmation program I started to love my faith. Before I hated CCD and I thought it was pointless. I never regularly received the sacraments , only when I had to. Then the spark was ignited. I started to lector and I went on this amazing retreat that my confirmation sponsor helps run, which helped me deepen my faith even more. Then I was still strong I read the bible occasionally and prayed a bit I went to reconciliation during lent. I went on the same retreat that helped me deepen my faith even more. Then I had a falling out. I hit rock bottom. I still loved my religion but there was something missing . I lost the joy in my religion. I wasn’t praying, it was rough. Then I started to hate myself. I hated my body in the way that I was too fat and I didn’t look right in clothing. I felt unloved because I had never had a boyfriend. I felt neglected by guys. I would think to myself why am I single, why have I never had a boyfriend. I would wonder is it because I am fat(now I know I am not), is it because I am in color guard, Is it because I act differently and I am loud. I would start trying to get guys by my body to get their attention because that is they way to get a long lasting relationship, right? Wrong.
Then I feel in love with my savior and everything changed. I struggled with self confidence issues but I don’t really have them anymore. I finally realized that God loves me no matter what I look like and I love him. I have changed in so many ways I don’t use vulgar language anymore at all, I just don’t feel the need to. I also know that God loves me and I am not neglected, I am saved. I discovered God made me perfect. I can look in the mirror and call myself beautiful. And now to the point of this story I dress modestly now. I realized you don’t need to sell your body to get a man, I am done being an object of lust(yes Greece came into my head too). Now I know the right guy will love me for my spirit.
Modesty is more than just the way you dress. Your body language and things you say also should be modest. Here is my tips for modesty in clothing
Shirts: Basically shirts should cover your chest and midriff. I love spaghetti strap tank tops for see through shirts and other shirts that need it. Also scarfs are amazing.
Pants: Pants and sweat pants should not be skin tight and look like they were painted on. Yoga pants or leggings should not be worn in public as only pants. I mean I have yoga pants and I will wear them to dance and bed or to a friends house for a sleepover but other than that don’t wear them. Jeans are okay. I wear the boy jean from American Eagle they are great but I get the long ones because the regulars are too short for me.
Shoes: Most shoes are pretty modest. I believe heels are modest when worn with the right outfit.
Skirts and Dresses: All maxi dresses aren’t modest. I know shocking. The only way maxi dresses aren’t modest it when they are too tight, low cut, see through, or have cut outs. I love dresses and skirts as long as the top isn’t too low cut, it is not too short and it is not tight. A good length I would say is knee or like a few inches above the knees is a good length. If you have a dress that is too short skirt extenders work great or what I do sometimes is I will wear the dress with a pair of leggings.
Shorts: I was once told that if you put your hands to your side in fists it is usually a good length for shorts. Again also if they are not too tight.
Bathing Suits:I don’t think bikinis are modest. Some one pieces are modest others are not. Use your discretion. No exposed chests or butt checks.
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